When someone special dies
When someone close to you dies, you may have all sorts of confusing feelings and some of these feelings may be quite strong.
Sometimes people die because they have been ill for a long time, but sometimes people die very suddenly. This can make us feel very sad and angry.
We will never forget someone special when they have died and it is really important to remember them, even if it is hard.
It can be difficult to talk about the person who has died - it can make you feel sad. Grownups find it hard too but keeping your feelings inside you can make you feel very angry. This is a difficult time for everyone.
Sometimes we worry about the person who has died and feel guilty and that it is our fault. These feelings are quite normal but difficult to understand. Try to talk to someone about how you are feeling. Remember it is not your fault the person has died.
There are lots of ways to help us remember someone who has died. Below are some suggestions but you may have some of your own:
- Make a memory box with items and photos to remind you of your special person.
- Make a memory book of letters, cards, photos and pictures.
- Listen to the person’s favourite music or watch their favourite film.
- Talk to other people about their memories of your special person.
- Visit their favourite places, the beach, the park etc.
What Mosaic can do to help?
Mosaic is here to help young people like you who have experienced the death of someone special. All the people who work for Mosaic have had special training to help them to help you understand how you are feeling.
We usually visit you in your home or at school, wherever you feel the most comfortable. We will tell you about how we can help and find out about how you are feeling.
You may just want some information or to talk to someone on the telephone.
Children and young people tell us that they often feel lonely and isolated and that it is really helpful to meet others who have had similar experiences. In order to do this we organise Residential Weekends where you can have fun, laugh, cry and make friends.
Who can come to a residential weekend?
Children and young people aged between 5 and 18yrs who have had individual support from Mosaic because someone close to them has died.
What happens at the weekend?
The weekend is filled with activities. Everyone is in small groups with others of their own age. We talk about your special person, exploring some of the feelings you may have and we have fun activities like archery and teambuilding games. It is good fun and everyone enjoys meeting others.
Children and Young People who have been to the weekend have said:
“I enjoyed the archery and talking about my mum, the food was good too”
“This weekend has been great for all of us. It’s taught us different skills to help with our emotions. We’ve learnt about anger and what to do with it, so we don’t hurt ourselves and others. We are all leaving today feeling a lot better and with a lot more friends who understand what we are going through”
“I enjoyed the candles, it was good remembering my dad and meeting other children who have had their dad die”
How much does it cost?
The weekend is free for all children and young people who have had individual support from Mosaic.