With Mother's Day fast approaching, this can a challenging and difficult time for many bereaved children, particularly if it is their first one without Mum.
Some children find it too painful to acknowledge, whilst others want to mark the importance of their Mum on this day but may be reluctant to discuss openly for fear of upsetting other members of the family.
Support from family and friends can be really helpful in gently raising the topic and involving them in the process of deciding how to recognize this day. Their thoughts and feelings should always be respected as each child's grief is different and personal. Children sometimes want ideas on how to remember Mum in their own way; some ideas are detailed below:
- Make a Mother's Day card to put in a special place (memory box, graveyard, mantelpiece)
- Watch a family film or one of Mum's favourite films
- Make some paper flowers
- Read a storybook that Mum used to read
- Share some memories of happy times you spent together and write them down
- Bake Mum's favourite cake
- Visit Mum's favourite place or go for a walk in a place she liked
- Look through family photos
- Choose a plant in memory of Mum
- Listen to Mum's favourite music
- Plant some bulbs or a shrub in a place that holds special memories of Mum
- Create a Mother's Day Memory Jar
- Light a candle
Remember, it's OK for children to be happy and it's also OK for them to be sad about Mum on Mother's Day. Be there for them at their own pace and provide support. A child's response to Mother's Day is likely to change over time depending on their age and their grief. We all grieve in different ways; there is no right or wrong.